El Topo

So I got a chance to sit in at the latest Socal Lair Event and listened to El Topo Give a lecture on routines stacks. We arrived slightly tardy because some of us decided to go racing (go karts) right before the lecture. This was a great Idea since a couple of guys wanted to battle each other on the track. The bad part about the great idea was the part we weren't aware of...We didn't know that we were 7th in line to get out on the track. Being 7th usually means you have to wait a while.

My first impression was this guy isn't Latino..... Every one that I have talked to has told me he was. Then it hit me, I figured he was mixed, later I find that he is half and half. Next he didn't have any type of presence or aura like some of the top guys I have talked too (BradP, APB, Mystery).
He had a very average joe look and feel to him. Once he spoke you could tell he has had some kind of theatrical training, you can tell by the way he talked and moved around. As he began to lecture you could tell that he is a f**** great instructor.

Most of the talk was on the basic MM attraction structure. Here is the basic outline he went over.

• Opener (opinion/direct)
• Neg/qualifier
• Transition
• Grounding/dhv
• Frame/cold read

After going over these basic concepts he went into Frames and what they are and how to get someone to accept them. At this point a lot of people got lost since he didn't give a traditional explanation on exactly what a frame is. What he described as a frame was really more of a NLP Pattern and how the Pattern was used to establish a frame.

Frames

Force Frames

• attraction frames
  

• comfort frames

Over all his lecture was great and well prepared.The only down side was that it was a little advanced so most people got lost once the lecture got past a certain point. This definitely was not a lecture for a newbee.


On A side not he also talked about how group theory can be avoided... Asian Playboys BLP anyone??

1st Lair Speech

So I gave my first lair speech this past Wednesdays. It was a new experience for me since I am not used to speaking n front of people,but I do have knowledge on speech writing. The way I see it, it's a new skill set that I am working on. I remember a while back when I heard Brad P Speak he said In order for some one to succeeds at being a good well rounded Pick Artist/Guru they had to have 3 qualities in them and they had to be good at them.

1. Good Pick Up Artist
2. Good Business Person
3. Good Teacher

Good Pick Up Artist: This is true but unfortunately there are a lot of guys who confuse being good with women, with being a good Pick Up Artist. I know my game is not even close to being as good as it could be, but I am glad I am surrounded by some great Pick Up Artist and great People. Im sure as time goes by this are will develop naturally.

Good Business Person: I have some knowledge in this are but I have not had a chance to let play out. I started reading and educating myself in some areas of Business a while back before I joined to community. Plus the ABCs Of Attraction isn't my company so I don't have to worry to much about this, I just give some input and ideas every now and then.

Good Teacher: This is the tricky part for me, in my opinion you really cant read up on being a good teacher there are too many thing that you have to incorporate and a lot of other experiences that you to have in other areas. This is an area I just have to learn as I go along.

So far I feel comfortable with my sluggish progression.... I know as other things start to fall into place I will pick up speed fast, like I usually do.


As far as my Speech went I asked some of the lair guys to chime in and give me some feed back.
Most guys had pretty much the same input;

The Pros:
1. I had a solid Body language
2. I didn't look Nervous

The Cons:
1. I could have used better notes to keep things a lil smoother and fluid.
2. Some guys said my voice projection was good but it died down towards the end.


Over all I enjoyed the experience and plane on doing it again. It is a great way for me to keep practicing.

This is Tough.

Ok so now I am a Inter Coach for Abcs Of Attraction. I also am back in school, plus I have been traveling and still traveling. There is a lot going on and even with 3 calenders this is tough. Life in general is tough its never really easy, but finding a balance and and maintaining it is very difficult, at least for me.

The one issue that is plaques me the most is time... I am at a point where I am trying to make myself better in every aspect of my life, from a physical, mental, and spiritual. I am also at a point where I am meeting people and have a lot of people around me.
So its hard to balance time for me, old friends, new friends, school, work,travel,family and women.
I have to be honest with myself and really start to make bigger changes in my life. I realize that I am going to be one of those peoples that are always going to be busy with something. Now there is nothing wrong with that I just have to figure out how a very busy person manages to run his life.
Also I don't think I can ever go back to a 9-5 job, I can not see myself ever giving up 8 hrs (5days) of my life to someone or some entity that will make money of me. I tried the Radiology field, hoping that my passion for helping people would help me thru the day and it did, but there is alot of bs and red tape in the medical field. I just cant see myself in the "Rat Race" like Robert Kiyosaki says.
So my whole life is getting a huge overhaul.... and it is a lot more difficult than I imagined. Its time to start to make moves and start to shake and bake. Either this is going to make happy and successful or I go down swinging.

Internship

Last week I had the Pleasure to Teach with Johnny Wolf in a 1-1 Boot Camp. I learned a lot about what it takes to take someone who is a total "afc" and what it takes to make him into a person who can successfully interact with Women. The hardest part wasn't helping the student, the hardest part was learning how to structure your interactions with the Student so he can benefit the most from you.
The good thing about being Part of the ABCs Of Attraction is that there is a high standard that you must meet in order to must meet in order to become part of the team.
The reason for this is that once you are surrounded by a bunch of guy who have good game and strive to be the best in what ever they do, it pushes and motivates you to become a better person.
Second this benefits the student since they are getting people who are putting in work day in and day out. When a student signs up he know that they are getting guys who have put in over hundreds of hours into something they are passionate about. Its also great being around Good PUAs that have a different perspective on game as well as different styles. The great thing about the ABCs Of Attractions is its versatility it lets you develop a unique style that is congruent to who you are.
So when all the instructors come together is a great ball of information that can be absorbed. This great advantage goes to the student since they get Good Solid info from different perspectives. They also get to witness how the ABCs structure can be applied to different types of game and how different people of ethnic backgrounds handle the Pick Up.

I am happy to be part of this great team. I can learn other types of game while I myself further develop my style. We have guys that deal with ONS, LTR, and MLTR and 3-somes. I couldn't ask for a better team to sign with.

Friday Night: WHat to do?

So it is Friday afternoon and I don't know what to do.

So Wednesday I went out and I opened a 7 set and I had no real intentions of Picking up, but the girl that was next to me really got into me. I was just trying to be social and wanted to practice my social skills. So one thing lead to another and she gave me her Number and told me to meet her at a place that she bartends and she would hook it up.

But the problem is that I am not really interested in her, I don't see any point in getting to know her on a much deeper level. I can see myself trying her out for my social circle and maybe meeting people through her but nothing beyond that. The problem with that is that i feel like I am Just using her and I am not giving any Value to her life. Second I think we related way to much.... every subject that we talked about we had too many commonalities... WAY to many, I feel like there is nothing interesting about her.

So now i have the problem of :
A. Join her, get hooked up.
B. Go out and meet someone I am interested in.

Life is Great LOL

Calendars

Ok so i have a lot of thing going on in my life right now, and I am finding that it is difficult to keep up with everything that is going on around me, sometimes things slip my mind and I end up rushing things.

So i have decided to have 3 calenders.

1. My Events Calendar: This will have weekly events that occur, this will allow me to
set up day 2's and always have something going on.
2. My Appointments Calendar: This will have my regular schedule such as
appointments,school,gym and work.
3. My B-day Calendar: This is going to have B-days, anniversaries and other special
occasion that need to be remembered.


This will allow me to keep up with everything ( I hope).

10/09/2007. Informative & Crazy

What a night!!!!!!!!!!!

The night was supposed to be me and my homies out for a poker game & some drinks at a local watering hole in Santa Monica. As we all know life tends to do its own thing when it wants to, thus life is unpredictable.

The plan is to meet up with Homie A and pick him up. on my way there I get a call from Quality (http://qualitypua.blogspot.com/) and we discuss some Game related topics. Its great talking to him I always get a fresh perspective on things. Its great having someone who is really good at excelling in all aspects of life and gaming. So we discuss and discuss and he made me realize that sometimes you need to take a step back and look at what has been working in order to better define you and your game. Its a simple task that I have completely over looked. I think since a lot of things have been happening this year(physically and financially) for me at such a fast pace I have had to keep my focus on whats ahead of me, and neglected to look back. So his advice was very solid and now I am going to incorporate some Lab work into my growing process. Its time to hit the Laboratory and cook up something devilishly Fun MUAHAHHA.



So I go and pick up my Homie and we head out to our local watering hole in Santa Monica and it happens to be karaoke night also. We sit down and watch some really talented people sing and some not-so talented people try to sing.

Note to Self: Learn to sing 3 songs

So I chit chat with my friend and we reminisce over our musical days, he and I were both music majors at one point. We get a call from Homie B and he says 5-0 pulled him over and he just got a ticket, now he feels like crap and doesn't want to come out.
So to cheer him up we tell him that the night is on us. So a couple of minutes later he gets there and we buy him a round of beers and it dawns on me....... The place is a Irish themed pub!!!! I sometimes wondered why the had rugby on the tv lol. But the funny part is that all the employees are Latino!

So we are there just chatting away talking about and its Homies B to buy drinks, but we insist that he keep his money. Then he tells us how when he was walking to the Pub he found some money and thats what he was going to use. We still insist that he keep it and then Homie A goes and gets us another round. When he gets back he says that the drinks were Free!!! We ask him how he got them and it turns out that some random guy at the bar paid for our drinks!!! So we enjoy our drinks and then its time for the next round... and the same thing happens again!!! So we finish up and we are all tipsy so we decide to walk over to a 24hr cafe. We get there and have some food then play rock-paper-scissors for the bill.

We decide to head back and we see a paper boy/man in his car delivering paper to residents in the area. My homies rush the car when the driver leaves and snatch a couple of papers. I run towards the driver side and try to open the door so I can "move the car" but the door was locked. We all have our lil fun and walk away then the guy comes back and pulls up next to us and tries to get the papers back. We give him 1 back and he just turn around and drives away.

Over all it was a great night I am glad I can have fun with friends like this every now and then.

Speer

I was lucky enough to meet and hear from Speer. We recently had at Santa Monica Lounge meeting and Revelations had a great presentation. He later told us about the free 1 hour lecture with speer. So as I always do i keep with my theme and I end up going to see what makes speer...speer.

So I get down to the designated meeting place and it has been changed to a different venue down the street. I head over there and am greeted by Revelations and then introduced to Speer.

I shake his hand and get a great vibe from him, he seemed really laid back and very confident. At this point I realize that no one has really arrived yet and everyone is grabbing a bite to eat. So I get up and grab me something to munch on. I grab a seat and watch everyone trickle in and we all start to small talk.

So everyone starts to trickle in and speer decides to have the lecture outside by some steps. We actually were next to a museum and memorial, it gave a nice back drop.

Speer starts out by giving us his bio and background. He breaks down his game and why he became good so fast. One of the key points that he talked to us about was "Identity", He broke down how he went thru a process of creating his identity before stepping into the community.

He then switched up to talking about Social Circles and how you have to people around you that are value givers and not value takers. As he was giving examples of what a value taker is and acts like a Random Bum walks up and asks if he was giving a class..... The bum then tried to go into a sad story on why he needed some money. The Bum didn't get any money but he gave us a great example of what a value taker was. He also went into good detail about how your social circle should be part of your identity and how everything ties in together.

Speer then went into some of his new theories which will be out in his book later this year ( i think its later this year), all of it was very interesting and very informative. I wont go into details about the theories since its coming out in his newsletters and book later on.

Over all it was a great lecture, Speer had it very well put together.


So in keeping with my theme (learning what makes people great)

I learned that you got to make changes within you to lead a great life. You have to make things happen because you want too.

3 weeks.

So it is almost going to be be 3 weeks of total pushing myself. I told myself that after helping out with the APB boot camp i would give myself some time to recover. Well the BC is Over and i have not stopped going out. For some reason I have been in a position where Some one is always going out and I have had the opportunity to join in.


At this point I have come to the realization thats its not really about going out, but more about choosing your venues wisely. Since its night game and most guys who do night game tend to go for "sex" as appose to the "ltr" it makes sense to go to a place where you can find more than a hand full of women to A. Practice B. Pull.

The hard part about this depends on the night of the week, Friday and Saturday seem to be by default the easiest since everyone goes out these days. Thursday seems to be good at certain venues, but as I am figuring out Monday, Tuesday and Wednesday seem to be difficult if you don't have a very high status Social circle.

So my next lesson/mission is to be able to get into clubs/lounges where "high status" people are at. That way i dont have to worry about finding targets.

So its friday and im going out.... So my review/summary of APB B-day bash will have to wait a lil longer

A-hole Game and a F-Up

So I meet up with Bigsend and we head out, the initial plan is to go to skybar. That doesn't pan out so we decide to hit another spot, Once we get there it pretty much dead. So then we decide to go look for a club thats near by, but once we get there its closed. Then Bigsend gets a Text fron Ulysses a good of ours and tells us that its going to be happening at X but we have to say were are on the guest list.

So head over to X and they ask us if we were on the List.... BigSend took over and worked his charm(AKA BS LOL) and he got us is. Then we walk over to the bar and get some sodas. The Female bartender looks at us and compliments on how sharp we look(we both had suits on) and then proceeds to give us free drinks.

So we sit around all over dresses and wait for Pink Floyd to meet us. Once he gets there we wait around a lil more so the venue get bumping. So we all open a couple of sets and then I run across this 2 set:

I open hb blond direct then try to go into rapport in a high energy way so I don't lose her. Her freind HB 8 turns to her and wipers something. I am not getting any IOIs from HB Blond and HB 8 isn't paying me any attention. I try to stack but I am getting no where, so I decide to eject.

I go back to my Boys and then HB 8 walks by and says " why did you leave?".
I Told her because she want paying any attention, and im here to meet people.
She then proceeds to try to toy with me, As soon as she does this i new she is the kind of HB that wants attention, then when she gets it she leaves, or loses interested in a guy.

So she stays next to me and I ask her "whats your story" she then gives me a semi answer with a ADD attitude. Since I knew her game was "Cat String" I just stopped talking to her and left.
I don't like girls who act stuck up and want attention, and to get it they toy with guys...then they just leave.

So I go back to my Boys and Big Send is in a 2 set with a hot tattoo girl. I jump in and wing, I didnt get my targets name so i just rolled played. I thought I heard BigSend say Cinderella So I just used that and rolled with it. I told her I was Robin Hood and she enjoyed that answer. I jumped into rapport and tried to hold the convo as long as I could so BigSend could have some time with his HB.

So after that set I walk around and guess who I run into my HB8.

HB: Why did you leave?
Me: You weren't listening.
HB: You like the way I look? *point to her*
Me: HMMMM... well your very creative...ill give you that.
HB: OMG... are you saying Im Ugly!
Me: I never said that.. I like the way you put it all together.
HB: OMG.... Your saying im ugly.
Me: Wait!!! when did I say that?
Me: I like the way your top hang over your shoulder *kino shoulder*
Me: And I like the way you have your hair. *kino neck and hair*
Me: But!!!!! I AM NOT HERE TO KISS YOUR ASS!! I might bite it but not Kiss it.
Me: I am here to meet genuine people and have fun.
HB: Im genuine...
Me: SO you have only ONE good quality. *laugh*

After this she qualifies her self to me, then she does a take away and turns to her friend. I do exactly the same thing. I turn to Pink Floyd and tell him "im doing a take a way also".
Right after that she Grabs my Hand and turns me around and says " Ill be right back im going to the bathroom"

We all wait around for a lil but it turns out to take to long. Bigsend then says " Damn what is she doing taking a shit". We all laugh and go open more sets.

Later I see her and she is throwing out AIs like crazy. But I figured I have basically been a a-hole to her might as well keep it up. THAT was my big mistake I was in!!! i need to run some solid game, but I just kept the a-hole thing up and lost her.

Last time I blew it because I want back into comfort this time I blew it because I missed comfort.

She Prime and ready for a good night and I missed out.... Oh well ill just take this as a valuable lesson.


Now Vegas here I come again!!!

Vince Kelvin

So I had the opportunity to go to the The Advanced Attraction and Arousal Mastery Weekend!


It was a 2 day course that covered Fast Game, this framework is very interesting since to me I thought Fast Game was done in a similar fashion as regular game, just faster. But I don't know anything and thus I learned how Fast Game works.


It was a great seminar but my motives behind it wasn't to go and learn new techniques but to go and watch Vince himself and what makes him what he is. The same goes for APB, I wanted to watch these guy and not simply learn their methods but learn what it really takes for someone to be at that level. Both these guys are amazing in field, and they are amazing people, So my goal was to watch amazing people do amazing things, so I can Be Amazing someday.

So here are some things that I noticed about Vince that really impressed me and i hope to incorporate into who I am.

He has alot of experience in field.
It about the energy that you bring.
You have to be Playful and express that thru BL
You have to be relaxed and express that thru BL
Even If you are at mastery Level you still push yourself.

I also noticed that every guru that I have seen (Bradp, APB, Vince) has a different swagger. They all have great BL but they are not the same. This brings up an interesting question, How do you find your swagger??
I guess its just time in field and you pushing yourself, after l that I assume that it all just comes together naturally.

I had the pleasure for being Vince's wings for about 20 min (During intermission) and what I saw in the day time Blew me away! The top gurus make it seem so easy... I mean SOOOOO EASY... They make it look like the girl was waiting for them and then she just gives herself to him.

Vince rolls up and opens and the set blows wide open.
I wing him and try to watch,listen and learn what he is doing to the HB9, while entertaining the obstacle. The way his game flowed from there was amazing, everything he did the hb was drooling over him. Around the 5 minute mark he is telling her that her punnanee(sp) is his. Then about the 10 min mark he is rubbing a lil oil that he carries on her chest in between her tits.
no more than 5 min later he is k-closing. After that i couldn't pay to much attention since 2 other friends of her came in and I had to try to occupy 3 people. I am pretty sure thought that he could have bounced her into his hotel room in less than 20 min.

I enjoyed hanging around him and learning, next is APB and Vegas once again.. So on to learn some more and the next adventure.

Finally back.

So i made it back in one piece from Mexico, Boy did I miss L.A

I went out there for family reasons and didn't have many opportunities do practice anything, plus it was raining most of the time. So i make it back and get a well timed called from BigSend...

We decide to head out and get a few sets in. I wasn't ready for this I just got back im jet lagged and very tired. I got some good opportunities coming up and my mind is all stressed. Combine all these factors and you get someone who wont approach. So I didn't approach at all, it wasn't anxiety, I just wast feeling it. So we walk around and i do basically nothing.

We decide to take a break and get together later for some night game.

I go back home and meditate in front of the tv to some Comic View. I then try to get a lil nap but nothing works. So i write out everything and reframe it into all positives.

So we meet up and hit the hollywood area and the place is dead!!! this did nothing for my state. So we get a couple of drinks and decide to chill and relax for the next hour. Then the place starts to get crowded and we start opening.

THE FIRST HB i open blows open and i extract out side in 60 sec... then proceed to make out and get her to rub my cock, after that i get her to show me her tits..

All the Variables for a pull were there and I BLEW IT!!!!!!

I could have pulled in less than 5 min!!!

The mistake that I made was going back to make her Comfortable!! I tried to connect more when i was ready to make a physical connection.

Ill write up a FR to remind myself of what not to do, and how all can change in a moment. It went from me feeling shitty to almost pulling under 5 min.

Life is great LOL

3rd Vacation in 3 months

For the last 3 months all I have been doing is traveling....
Now I am off to Mexico, My spanish is Okay so hopefully I can translate some of my material.

ViVa Las Vegas

So i spent 5.5 days in Vegas and boy was it a blast. Vegas IMO is the best training grounds for a young PUA. There are so many HB and they are all out there to have fun and enjoy the moment. That means that you options are greater and your % goes up, if your willing to push yourself.

My goal was to go to Vegas and play Poker all Day and Party all night.

Day 1:
got to Vegas mid day, Played poker all day and then got ready for the evening.
Hit the club and at the end of the night I managed to bounce 2x and got some nasty lmr in the Elevator to her room.

Day2:
Played Poker all day and then got ready for the evening.
Got 3 kiss closses but could get anything more.

Day3:

Played a lil poker and meet some friends then got ready for the evening.
I was a 1 man wrecking crew this night.
I F-up logistics and fumbled the pull, so I go for the restroom pull but the bouncer had no love for 4FiveSex.

Day 4:

I slept all day, My body could not take all the stress.
I had a bad night... My sets didn't hook and I ran into some "racist comments". It just was one of those bad nights.

Day 5:

I play poker all day, then catch my flight later that night.




Vegas is always fun!!!

Too much walking

What a great Wednesdays night i had...

First i meet up with APB and help out with A Focus Group he was Running, boy does he have some good stuff coming soon. After that we(Me,Gatsby,APB) decided to head out and go sarge a lil.

We decide that we should head on up to Hollywood.. we jump in my car and head up there. For a Wednesday night it was really crowded and parking was difficult since I didnt want to pay the HUGE prices at the local lots.

So we finally find a spot and walk over to club X once we get there we find out that its closed. We ask around and find out that there is another club right down the street. As we are walking to the place we spot a group of papparatzie waiting outside a restaurant. We just assume that there was a celeb in there having a late dinner.

We get the next club .... while we are there we see at least 4 celebs running across the rope and getting chased by Papparatzie. After that we went and hit a local bar and got some drinks.

It was great watching APB and Gatsby perform, APB has got the sickest non-verbal game I have seen... Gatsby is one smooth guy...And me??? Well im not there yet but being in there presences was great. I got to see first hand how the game can be played at the most optimal level. APB is a great guy who I am glad I came across in my PUA journey.

Later as the sun rose we went back to my car but we couldnt find it. We walk around for a while and stilll couldnt find it. We cought a cab back to APB Hotel and then Later I went back for it.

Over all it was a great night.

My Rules For DayGame

So there are times when I get a good big dose of DayGame, and there are other times when i get DayGame in small doses. The big doses are when other lair guys call me up and we set a day to sarge. The small doses are the times one is doing an everyday errand and gets the opportunity to sarge a hb.

After doing a good amount of big dose DayGame I have Learned a couple of things. Now these lessons are going to help me enjoy and make the most out of Big Dose DayGame.

My Rules:

1. Comfortable Shoes.

I have consistently made the mistake of wearing shoes that made my feet tired and hurt at the end of the day. Nice Cofortable shoes make walking around (and sometimes chasing) alot better.

2. Weather appropriate Clothing.
Once again I have worn clothing that made me over heat. Had I worn something lighter and cooler i wouldn't have been drenched in sweat while gaming.

3. Don't walk to much.

Every time we go out and do Big Dose DayGame we end up walking around for hours... Its so much nicer if you can find a nice spot to sit and let the HBs come to you.

4. Get Good Wings.

Its so much easier when you go out and have other guys motivating and keeping up with you. Its so much harder when you go out and they guy(s) don't do anything... It brings your state down too much.


5. Water/Bathroom Breaks.

Its necessary to keep our self hydrated so you don't pass out in the heat. Its just as important that you get a Bathroom break also.. you don't want to be jumping around a HB or miss one because you had to run to the Bathroom.

6. Watch the Meter.

Make sure you dont get a ticket. make sure the meter has money in it. Also make sure that you dont exceed the aloted time.

7. Alawys push they self.

My New Sticking points

Well since My APB BC I have made great progress but as old windows close, new ones open.
This got me thinking... How long does it take for someone to truly understand the "Game"
I guess you never really Understand anything 100% if you factor in the human factor.
I just hope that while I am trying to figure it out I never get burned out and need a good break from this fun Game.

Since the BC I have been sitting down and trying to breakdown what it was that made me make that big leap. Then I sat down and began to think why I made those leaps, After that I kept on going and came to the conclusion thats I needed to write down what I wasn't able to do properly and why.

So it came down to these categories.

1. Sticking Points
2. Theory
3. Field Work

All these categories were addressed, corrected in a very short amount of time during the BC.

Sticking Points:

I asked myself why were these my sticking points, and came to the conclusion that During my AFC days i wasn't good at these phases because i rarely went thru them

Theory:
Wow this is were I had the most help in. I knew about 90% of the stuff that was taught in the BC, but what I didnt know is how it all worked together and how it was applied properly. Learning all this stuff can be mind boggling when one chooses to take it head on alone.

Field Work:

We had a great time in the field, But this can happened any time.




So Now my sticking points should be easier to get by since A. I actually have been in these situation during my AFC days. Plus I have Theory to back it up. So all thats left is the Field Work. But there are other factors that Prevent me from And I cant think of it.....

I think Since the stakes have gone up (getting physical, bouncing,ONS etc...) I don't want blow it. It feels good be be at the level that I am at, I worked hard to get here and part of me wants to enjoy it, so I play it SAFE.
This mentality of not wanting to blow I guess is what is stopping me from making Leaps like in the BC.

I guess it all just boils down to how strong your inner game is, and what mental state you are in.

I guess i will just keep trying to work it out so I can make another big leap.

Day 2 of Asian Playboys ABC’s Of Attraction Boot Camp

Day Time:

We started of with a Review and Debrief of the previous night, here we got even more input and feedback. After this we jumped back into the ABCs of attraction with an overview on how to open:
Seated Sets
With Table
With A Chair
With No Chair
With an Occupied Chair

After this we discussed Certain Female Flirting Behavior, and compliance tests.
This was very easy to understand since APB and the wing women Jewels would demonstrate in front of the class. The next step we covered was Advanced Body Language , we learned How, Why and When to use it. After some theory on it we had to demonstrate it by getting up in front of the class , this was achieved by using Toy Machine and Jewels while APB Critiqued and corrected.

The next step was to learn and understand C and D game. At this point we had to pull out our day 2 Homework which he had e-mailed us prior to the Boot Camp. The point of HW 2 was intended to demonstrate certain qualities about us thru the use of storytelling. We went around the room and each one of us told our story, after we were done we got feedback as to whether our stories were ok or not, then we would get input on how and why it worked. I found this to be one of the most useful exercises.
After a short break, we jumped into D game, which covered such topics as:
Sexual interest
Proper Kino Escalation
Phone Close Tactics
Kiss Close Tactics

Once again Jewels was very helpful as she was able to demonstrate with APB and Give an honest Female Perspective as to how it feels when thing are not done correctly by a guy.

The next step we covered was absolutely my favorite….DIRECT APPROACHES!
We got a bunch of theory on it and then given the opportunity to practice it.

We wrapped it up for the evening and were given new goals for the night.

A game
B game
C game
D game
Open Direct


Night Time:

We all meet up at the venue and APB told us that this place was going to be more Difficult to work. He explained the this venue was going to be crowded since it was a special event and that their really was not place to isolate. Boy was he right top it off with some extremely Loud Music and it became very challenging.

Once again we began opening sets while in line and got the necessary corrections. Since there were mostly big sets (4-7) we winged each other. Once inside every one started to open set after set.
I had made the decision that tonight I would go mostly Indirect since I was a lil rusty in that area.
I opened Indirect with a canned opener I was doing a good job , but when it came time to isolate I was having trouble. The only real place to Isolate was a hallway that lead to the restrooms and I didn’t know where that was until later that night when I had to go take a piss.

The Positive on this was that I got a good amount of mini Isolation and got a lot of practice in manipulating the Target thru our BL. This Night was all about BL for me. I learned how important your BL is when no one can hear you. I finally understand that it truly isn’t about what you say but what you project. Thru out the night I got to practice giving Compliance tests but I couldn’t the PU to go Sexual.

Once I found out where the hallway was I was able to isolate someone and boy does the mood change when you are able to get some alone time with someone.

The other guys were doing some amazing stuff!!! Since there wasn’t much room they gamed into the vip tables and were able to get free drinks lol. Later that night I opened a HB and she asked me if I knew the BC guys , I of course said yes and she began to complain about how my Friends are getting free drinks from girls at the bar…. And that as a man we should pay LOL.

The night went ok, Me deciding to go Indirect hindered some of my results since I was rusty..
I got to open a lot of sets got some Isolation and winged some of the BC guys and got number closed by some girl.
THE BAD part was that I LOST MY F****** Phone!!!!!!!!!! What made me even more mad is that I had baby pics of my new lil niece…. So in retrospect I might have had a good night, but losing those pics soured the evening. This night wasn’t very Kind to me at all!

Day 1 of Asian Playboys "ABCs Of Attraction Boot Camp"

Day 1 of Asian Playboys ABC’s Of Attraction Boot Camp


So After a year in the game I decided to give myself an Anniversary gift and take APB Boot Camp.
One of the main reasons that I took his BC was because he deals with Minorities and some of the challenges that come up from that during a PU. For those who are not aware of who APB is you can find him at http://theasianplayboy.blogspot.com/.

About Me: for the guys that don’t know me, I am a 26 year old Latino (Mexican) male with a full year under my belt. I have Sarged with more than a handfull of guys and Picked up a lot of usefull stuff from them and from reading a lot of Literature on PU.

Day Time:

The Bootcamp took place in Sin City aka Las Vegas, WOW this place is Hot During the day!!!!
The first day was the easiest since it was an over view of the basic principles. I had no problem understanding all the material since it was presented in a very professional manner. We covered a lot during the class, first he had use explain our goals & expectations. This was easy and everyone had a solid reason for being there, some of us even had the same reason.

Next It was an overview of his ABCs of attraction, each letter gets broken down and explained what it is and why it effective. This was great since we now had a solid Blueprint to follow. We specifically went into A & B. After that we had a bunch of exercises that helped us develop Solid A & B Game.
The Exercises were excellent since they were both verbal and physical. He helped us correct our tonality and Body language(Boy did we need help). This is were the extra Interns in training came into play, It was great to have them around since we had the possibility to try it on different combinations of people. The wing women Jewels was awesome since she is a female and was our practice dummy.


Night Time:

The goal of the night was to practice A & B game. We had been given (thru E-mail) Home Work prior to the BC, this included Some Canned Openers and how to script our own. Most of us memorized some of the canned ones while some of us had our own.

Now I know we shocked APB this night!!!!!!!!!

Here is a lil Background:
During the day time he went around the room and asked everyone to tell him what was the amount of AA that they had, from a scale of 1-10.
Guy1: “I Have a ZERO.”
Guy2: “Hmm maybe a 4-5”
Guy3: “I would say about a 3-4”
Me: “ I would guess about a 3-4 also”

Now I am sure he has guys give him a low Number and then exhibit a much higher Number In Field.


Back to night 1:

So we all arrive at the venue and while waiting in line he starts telling us to jump in set. We all do what he says since we were all lil good boys. This is where we all started to improve!!! It was great opening big sets after big sets. He would tell some of us to go in and wing each other also so we got to open and wing sets BEFORE we even got in. We were getting instant feedback right of the bat.
So we get into the venue and Bam he starts to point out sets…. I guess at this point the was used to having some of his students start showing some AA. This is what made our group absolutely FUCKING Amazing……. We were lil a pack of wild dogs that got unleashed we started to tear the place up. What ever he told us to do we did and went beyond what was expected. The Goal was to Practice A & B game… We had guys getting free drinks form girls!!!! We all (BC Guys) made out at least with 4 different girls!!!!!!!!!!! And We got Numbers!!!
Now we had a VIP table so it was easy to isolate and gain social proof, But to have Women around that much in 1 night and have them kiss/make out, buy you drinks, give you their Numbers…. WOW THAT WAS AMAZING!!

At one point some of us congregated at the Table and APB saw a mixed 4 set(1 guy 3 girls). He points them out and before you know we are over there. Me and the guys took over the table and PWNED it. The next day APB said we took over too well and he actually started to fell bad for the guy MUHAHAH.

For me that was a great eye opener.. I got 4 kiss closes 1 free drink and 1 number and some girl took a drink from my Crotch. I Managed to Isolate about 3-4 girls ( I cant remember exactly there were to many girls for me that night) at our table, this was great because APB was Right there and giving me corrections.

After the night was done me and my roommate( Australian guy in the BC) headed back to our room, we couldn’t believe how well the night had gone.

1 year anniversary

Wow I cant believe that it has been a whole year since I started this. Time seems like it has flown by so fast. I don't know how one would go about celebrating an anniversary as a PUA. I thought about going out and having a blast, opening set after set and pushing myself like there is no tomorrow. But I can do that any day, any time and there wouldn't be anything special about it. So instead of looking to make myself better, I thought maybe its time to actually sit back and reflect on what I have been thru and how I have changed and grown.

Now that i look back I think I have made some huge leaps in certain parts of my life, and still need to make some changes in other parts. I have come a long way, but its still a small step in my over all plan. My PUA skills have improved and for some odd reason it has become much simpler, but me as a person , thats where I think thats where the biggest change has come about.

I remember Bigsend Inviting me to a Wine tasting that was being hosted by Ulysses, it was my first real taste of being social in an environment that was meant to be social... And I knew nobody....... This was an experience that I will never forget. This situation really showed what type of person I was (good at heart, but shy.. very very shy). I think i didn't talk to anyone for the first hour at all.... I think I said Hello to Ulysses and that was because he was the Host. Over all that whole night I think I talked about 30 min combined. The whole night was great but I didn't have fun, Not because of the people or environment, because I didn't know how to have fun while being social (actually i didn't know being social was fun).

If I were too narrow it down into 3 categories and break down how I grew and became who I am now it would be something like this.

1. People(25%)
2. Theory(15%)
3. Experience(60%)

People:

Honestly I think this was the the most influential part of my growing. If it wasn't for the people that I have meet along the way I don't think I would have been able to make as much progress as I did. If it wasnt for the great people that I came across I think i would be lost in this self help/Pua world. I also have to acknowledge all the bad people I came across with. If it wasn't for them I wouldn't have seen some of the mistakes and learned from watching them.


Theory:

Thank god for books, I think I have read more in this past year then my whole 4 years in high school. I find my self in bookstores more often than ever, I cant imagine not being able to read a book. Everything that one needs to know about anything can be found in a book.

Experience:

I think this is the crucial element that make or breaks anyone trying to become somebody. If it wasn't for these experiences I don't know if I could tell if i had grown or not. Going out there and trying new things gave me the confidence that I needed to improve myself. All the times that I didn't succeed just made me stronger and gave me a different type of lesson, a lesson that you cant get by being successful. A lesson that pushes you and make you grateful when you do succeed...and it really put things into perspective.



Its been a great journey, and I am glad I am on it. I have meet great people and made great friends. In the beginning I wouldn't have imagined that changing who you are, in order to make yourself the best possible you, would take so long. I guess changing 20+ years of conditioning takes a lil more than 1 yr.

FR:

So I meet up with CoolHandLuke and X and we walked around for a bit. We walk into Xyz Store and X goes and looks around I head down to he lower level, but I don’t find anything I like. On the way out I spot a good looking broad…

*I put a smile on my face as I walk up…2 taps on her shoulder , keep my hand on there spin her so she faces me, then I let go*

Me: Hey.. This is random… Your are very beautiful and I would like to get to know you.
HB: Oh…..Why Thank you.
Me: By the way im 4Five6
HB: Im L nice to meet you.
Me: nice to meet you, what your story today?
HB: umm. Just walking around, me and some friends were out here having lunch.
Me: Cool… you from around here?
HB: No I am from Anaheim, where you from?
ME: Im from out here….Oh wow... So who was the Lucky Driver?
HB: My friend….* I cut her off*
Me: You know I was just out in Anaheim about 2 weeks ago.

At this point I went into a lil story about my MSF course out there, and how I was the only one that didn’t pass. We talked a lil about that and gas prices.

ME: So what your nationality?
HB: Im Hispanic duh…

*Note: Hispanic and Latinos are 2 different things, and I am not sure she was aware of this*
Often the term "Hispanic" is used synonymously with the word "Latino", and frequently with "Latin" as well, as they are used in the U.S. Even though the terms may sometimes overlap in meaning, they are not completely synonymous.


Me: Well… don’t you think Hispanic is a lil broad??
HB: Im Mexican, but I was born and raised here, you?
Me: Same.. I was born and raised here also, but I have spent a good amount of time in certain parts of Mexico.
ME: You like to travel? What’s the weirdest thing that’s happened to you while traveling?

She hasn’t traveled too much so she doesn’t have to many things to say, so I take over and start telling a couple of stories of my adventures and that places I have been. My last story is about my in Mexico and family, I used this to transition into a deeper/important topic.

For the rest of the convo We talk about Family, how many we have, where they are from, brother, sister, I just asked OEQ about what she enjoyed about family, family activities, visiting family ect… Then I just Rewarded and relate.

Then She notices that her friend had positioned herself next to us so she could hear our convo and watch with her peripheral vision. I point her friend out and comment that she isn’t doing a good job of being inconspicuous and they both giggle.
I figure that this is a good time to depart since her friends are crowding around and I don’t know where CHL and X are at.
I tell her I enjoyed our conversation, and that we should talk some other time when we are both not busy. I pull out the celly and tell her to type in her number, she does and I call it ask her what company she is with while I wait for the machine, I figure that I would make her leave herself a message. She lets phone ring a couple of time and she picks up. We talk for a short while to each other on our phones then hang up. I give her a hug and say my good bye.

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I think think went very well although I know it could have been better, I stuck to my Plan. I now have to start incorporating a "Bounce" once I know I can get the #. Damn now that I look back She was HOT... I think it just hit me how hot she was lol. I also need to read up a lil more on Jugglers Reward and Relate, plus Im not to good at making emotional connections.

WATCHAA Like..

I have been meaning to sit down and actually write a complete list down on what qualities I like in women, in terms of looks,personality, etc... I heard about this from on of the MM Interview Series that talked about Qualifying (I believe Sinn was in it). About 1 month ago I sat down and started a lil list and now since I have a game plan when talking to a HB, I figure its time to actually see if she is compatible with what I am looking for. I never really talked about these things(Qualities which I am Looking for) with a HB I dont know why, But I mostly just talked about random stuff or what going on around us, with a touch of storytelling about my experiences. Hopefully now that I am going to begin screening it will allow me to transition in deep rapport a lil more easily.

Here is a small list (my actual one is pretty long) on what I want and I am looking for.
LOOKS:

• Around 5'6
• Around 115
• Brunet
  
• Nice Hips
• Nice Teeth

PERSONALITY:

• Funny
• Witty
• Confident
• Smart
  
• Independent (not to Independent)
• Sweet

MISC:

• Must be Family oriented
• Must not want children right away
• Must Love to Travel
• Must Love Dogs
• Must respect her roots and culture
• Must be adventurous
  

I also Have a list of what I will not tolerate, but I don't want to make this post to long.


Now I have to formulate how I am going to screen and find out if she fits the list. I figure I can use stories and asked her question about these topics to find out what she is passionated about and what kind of person she is. If she doesn't have any of these qualities that I am looking for then I can just politely Next her. After all I have the Power of choice right? So know I have get everything together and see how it will work out.

Its Saturday Night and I am going to meet up with some Homies and hit the club, Hopefully I will get more than a handful of chances to experiment and see how it goes.

Direct.

So Monday Night I meet up with a really good friend and wing of mine BigSend He took a http://www.captivatetoconnect.com/ Workshop and he told what a great time he had. He was nice enough to go over my Direct game and give me some pointers.

I noticed that one of the main things that I lacked was a solid game plan. For some reason (I Dont know why) but I thought that everything would flow Forward naturally.

So what I did I went over some of my notes and made a solid game plan. I now have a direction in which I can take the PU. Now when ever I engage a Hb I know what to ask and where to lead the conversation too. This should help me get passed that moment (about 3-4 min in) where I don't know what to ask, thus creating a drop in energy which leads to me to loose the HB.

MSF: Day 3

So I finished up day 3 of the MSF course, and boy did it increase in difficulty. The bad news is that I didn't pass the course test at the end, I guess I need to practice on my own before I go back and retake it again. Maybe ill get me a bike and ride a lil around some parking lot just to get used to handling a motorcycle.

I had no Idea that the course was going to be that fast paced. I was told to go and take the course to learn how to Ride a motorcycle, but know after taking the course I would recommend that someone have some riding experience before going and taking it.

So I finished my second day of Motorcycle school (MSF). The First day was pretty boring and really laid back. The Second Day was intense.... Wow!!!! the second day was completely 180.


So i get there for the 1st day and check in, they hand out a bunch of paper work for us to fill in. They gave us a hand book that went over most of the basics, we were to read it and fill out the questions at the end of the booklet. This was pretty easy, Plus we got to do it as a group, unfortunately most of my group was not very social. For the next 5 hrs we all sat around watched some videos, read the booklet and discussed. Over all this was pretty boring, which made me take the material a lil lightly. The night before our first class I went only line a read the booklet which made me a lil over confident going in to the 1st night.


Now the 2nd day was a complete opposite of the 1st, the energy level was completely high. Every one was all hyped up even myself. I was a little nervous and I could tell the same about 3-4 other guys out of our group of 12.
So we meet the instructor and he is ridding a Monster Sport Bike..... This thing was huge!!! I cant even describe the way I felt when I saw it... So after role call we get our gear and walk over to our Bikes. At this point the Instructors ask how many have never been on a Bike before, it turns out that the 3-4 guys that I noticed that where nervous where the ones that have never been on a bike.

I dont know about most peoples experiences when it comes to learning how to ride a Bike, but this shit is hard to Learn. I know how to ride a regular bicycle and I know (or used to know) how to drive Manual, so how hard can this be right?

This was hard!!!! I am so glad I am taking this MSF course, I honestly don't know how I could have learned on my own. The coordination that is needed is insane.... You really have to be careful. Its a difficult at first but once you get used using all your 4 limbs at the same time it just become less difficult.

One Crucial Lesson that I learned you cannot have your fingers on the front brake and the accelerator at the same time!!! I Almost Fucking ATE IT!!!!!!!!!!!! Wow.. That was a wake up call.... I Have mad respect for a bike now, whether it a 150cc or 1300cc. I don't know what happened but as I was coming to a cone (the last cone before stopping) I squeezed the clutch, brake and accelerated at the same time... I don't know what I was thinking (that was probably why it happened). The Bike revved up and that fucking got me all scared so I panicked and I think I let go of the clutch a lil, this made the bike move forward. For some reason the Bike didn't stop and I went over a piece of concrete that surrounded an Island of grass and trees. After that island was nothing but street and cars!!!! I didn't want to go into traffic so I decide that my best option is to jump off! So as soon as I start to jump of the bike starts to wobble and loose balance Half my body made it off as the bike started to slide down the other, so the bike kept sliding and stopped at a tree about 2-3 feet away.

That was a close call... one of the instructors came over and asked if I was ok, I told him I was and he picked up my Bike.

Tonight is day 3 and the instructors said that this was going to be the most difficult, hopefully there wont be anymore close calls.

BACK.....

Once again i have neglected to write down what has been happening to me and what I have learned. Hopefully the new layout will keep me on point with this thing.

A Lesson in Alpha Learned

So I have been Ultra Busy Working.... And I don't like it, but I have Learned a lesson in alpha-ness.

Every Guy at my work place is Alpha except for one, and you can tell he is at the bottom of the list.
He doesn't say anything unless he thinks its ok. He gets told what to do and when to do it. When something challenging comes up he tries to avoid it, Not because he cant do it, but he just doesn't believe that what he does can be good( due to his self doubt).

Now I work at a medical facility so everyone is constantly dealing with People(Patients). This is great because i get to interact with a great amount of people during the day. This allows me to practice my social skill set. The most exciting things is watching Other People Interact with Patients.

Like I said best part is watching all these alpha males interact with people plus the Female Co-Workers (who are all decent looking).
Now comparing their "attitude" while dealing with people and comparing the Non Alpha-Guy, I can see how certain (small)things make a Huge Difference when Dealing with people.

Now I have observed how the non-alpha guy deals with a Good looking Female Patient and compared it with the Alpha Guys.

As soon as the non alpha guy begins the interaction with the Patient he Makes sure that it goes well ( in his head). Now this starts to manifest itself in certain ways that parallel with the way guys act when the talk to a Female(Sarge).

As soon as the non alpha guy makes visual contact with the HB Patient he starts to do things that will come across as "NICE". His actions come of as seeking approval... He does what he does to make the HB feel like he is a good person.
He puts on a smile he drops(makes it softer, less "threatening") his voice,becomes polite and more gentle.
In a sense he lets the HB lead in order to make her feel comfortable.
Now all this is nice and polite but its the message that it sub-communicates.
It shows that he is not capable of demonstrating who he is in a strong way. Now why would some one demostrate what they can be(not who they are) in a weak manner and hope that people figure out what kind of person they are? I guess he wants to be accepted for those "nice" qualities in hopes that will carry him far enough.
Now if he had a strong identity and good inner game then He wouldn't worry about being accepted, because he knows that who he is good enough, and that will radiate, and people will see that and feel comfortable.


Now The ALPHA guys do things totally different.
They Treat The HB Like anybody else. They Approach and Greet in a very confident way, they dont go out of their way to make her feel like special or comfortable. Then after the initial Contact they back up their confidence by Leading( this makes people feel comfortable)And thru out the Leading Process their actions and words back up the initial Confidence while demonstrating who they are.

Unlike The Non Alpha guy they don't seek approval right of the bat in order to make people believe that they are a certain person. . They Are confident in the way the act and who they are.

This has made me aware of how important that first initial impression is, and how the Lil things can drastically work against you.

Also since the 90% of Guys are Alpha I have Learned that Its not all about being the Most Alpha One. Although I am not the Most Alpha at work I am well respected, When ever I get "Challenged" I am confident that no matter what the outcome "I Am who I Am" so it doesn't phase me. I am cool, Calm, and confident. Now I don't avoid these "challenges" I face them head up, If i were to back down that would mean that they have the upper hand with me and it would drop me into the low end of the scale.

Now I also "challenge" them once in a while to let them know that I am capable of doing that also, it lets them know that I am strong enough to do that.
All this combined has gotten me great respect from everyone, and as I get better I know I will naturally gravitate to that #1 spot.