El Topo

So I got a chance to sit in at the latest Socal Lair Event and listened to El Topo Give a lecture on routines stacks. We arrived slightly tardy because some of us decided to go racing (go karts) right before the lecture. This was a great Idea since a couple of guys wanted to battle each other on the track. The bad part about the great idea was the part we weren't aware of...We didn't know that we were 7th in line to get out on the track. Being 7th usually means you have to wait a while.

My first impression was this guy isn't Latino..... Every one that I have talked to has told me he was. Then it hit me, I figured he was mixed, later I find that he is half and half. Next he didn't have any type of presence or aura like some of the top guys I have talked too (BradP, APB, Mystery).
He had a very average joe look and feel to him. Once he spoke you could tell he has had some kind of theatrical training, you can tell by the way he talked and moved around. As he began to lecture you could tell that he is a f**** great instructor.

Most of the talk was on the basic MM attraction structure. Here is the basic outline he went over.

• Opener (opinion/direct)
• Neg/qualifier
• Transition
• Grounding/dhv
• Frame/cold read

After going over these basic concepts he went into Frames and what they are and how to get someone to accept them. At this point a lot of people got lost since he didn't give a traditional explanation on exactly what a frame is. What he described as a frame was really more of a NLP Pattern and how the Pattern was used to establish a frame.

Frames

Force Frames

• attraction frames
  

• comfort frames

Over all his lecture was great and well prepared.The only down side was that it was a little advanced so most people got lost once the lecture got past a certain point. This definitely was not a lecture for a newbee.


On A side not he also talked about how group theory can be avoided... Asian Playboys BLP anyone??

1st Lair Speech

So I gave my first lair speech this past Wednesdays. It was a new experience for me since I am not used to speaking n front of people,but I do have knowledge on speech writing. The way I see it, it's a new skill set that I am working on. I remember a while back when I heard Brad P Speak he said In order for some one to succeeds at being a good well rounded Pick Artist/Guru they had to have 3 qualities in them and they had to be good at them.

1. Good Pick Up Artist
2. Good Business Person
3. Good Teacher

Good Pick Up Artist: This is true but unfortunately there are a lot of guys who confuse being good with women, with being a good Pick Up Artist. I know my game is not even close to being as good as it could be, but I am glad I am surrounded by some great Pick Up Artist and great People. Im sure as time goes by this are will develop naturally.

Good Business Person: I have some knowledge in this are but I have not had a chance to let play out. I started reading and educating myself in some areas of Business a while back before I joined to community. Plus the ABCs Of Attraction isn't my company so I don't have to worry to much about this, I just give some input and ideas every now and then.

Good Teacher: This is the tricky part for me, in my opinion you really cant read up on being a good teacher there are too many thing that you have to incorporate and a lot of other experiences that you to have in other areas. This is an area I just have to learn as I go along.

So far I feel comfortable with my sluggish progression.... I know as other things start to fall into place I will pick up speed fast, like I usually do.


As far as my Speech went I asked some of the lair guys to chime in and give me some feed back.
Most guys had pretty much the same input;

The Pros:
1. I had a solid Body language
2. I didn't look Nervous

The Cons:
1. I could have used better notes to keep things a lil smoother and fluid.
2. Some guys said my voice projection was good but it died down towards the end.


Over all I enjoyed the experience and plane on doing it again. It is a great way for me to keep practicing.

This is Tough.

Ok so now I am a Inter Coach for Abcs Of Attraction. I also am back in school, plus I have been traveling and still traveling. There is a lot going on and even with 3 calenders this is tough. Life in general is tough its never really easy, but finding a balance and and maintaining it is very difficult, at least for me.

The one issue that is plaques me the most is time... I am at a point where I am trying to make myself better in every aspect of my life, from a physical, mental, and spiritual. I am also at a point where I am meeting people and have a lot of people around me.
So its hard to balance time for me, old friends, new friends, school, work,travel,family and women.
I have to be honest with myself and really start to make bigger changes in my life. I realize that I am going to be one of those peoples that are always going to be busy with something. Now there is nothing wrong with that I just have to figure out how a very busy person manages to run his life.
Also I don't think I can ever go back to a 9-5 job, I can not see myself ever giving up 8 hrs (5days) of my life to someone or some entity that will make money of me. I tried the Radiology field, hoping that my passion for helping people would help me thru the day and it did, but there is alot of bs and red tape in the medical field. I just cant see myself in the "Rat Race" like Robert Kiyosaki says.
So my whole life is getting a huge overhaul.... and it is a lot more difficult than I imagined. Its time to start to make moves and start to shake and bake. Either this is going to make happy and successful or I go down swinging.