1 year anniversary

Wow I cant believe that it has been a whole year since I started this. Time seems like it has flown by so fast. I don't know how one would go about celebrating an anniversary as a PUA. I thought about going out and having a blast, opening set after set and pushing myself like there is no tomorrow. But I can do that any day, any time and there wouldn't be anything special about it. So instead of looking to make myself better, I thought maybe its time to actually sit back and reflect on what I have been thru and how I have changed and grown.

Now that i look back I think I have made some huge leaps in certain parts of my life, and still need to make some changes in other parts. I have come a long way, but its still a small step in my over all plan. My PUA skills have improved and for some odd reason it has become much simpler, but me as a person , thats where I think thats where the biggest change has come about.

I remember Bigsend Inviting me to a Wine tasting that was being hosted by Ulysses, it was my first real taste of being social in an environment that was meant to be social... And I knew nobody....... This was an experience that I will never forget. This situation really showed what type of person I was (good at heart, but shy.. very very shy). I think i didn't talk to anyone for the first hour at all.... I think I said Hello to Ulysses and that was because he was the Host. Over all that whole night I think I talked about 30 min combined. The whole night was great but I didn't have fun, Not because of the people or environment, because I didn't know how to have fun while being social (actually i didn't know being social was fun).

If I were too narrow it down into 3 categories and break down how I grew and became who I am now it would be something like this.

1. People(25%)
2. Theory(15%)
3. Experience(60%)

People:

Honestly I think this was the the most influential part of my growing. If it wasn't for the people that I have meet along the way I don't think I would have been able to make as much progress as I did. If it wasnt for the great people that I came across I think i would be lost in this self help/Pua world. I also have to acknowledge all the bad people I came across with. If it wasn't for them I wouldn't have seen some of the mistakes and learned from watching them.


Theory:

Thank god for books, I think I have read more in this past year then my whole 4 years in high school. I find my self in bookstores more often than ever, I cant imagine not being able to read a book. Everything that one needs to know about anything can be found in a book.

Experience:

I think this is the crucial element that make or breaks anyone trying to become somebody. If it wasn't for these experiences I don't know if I could tell if i had grown or not. Going out there and trying new things gave me the confidence that I needed to improve myself. All the times that I didn't succeed just made me stronger and gave me a different type of lesson, a lesson that you cant get by being successful. A lesson that pushes you and make you grateful when you do succeed...and it really put things into perspective.



Its been a great journey, and I am glad I am on it. I have meet great people and made great friends. In the beginning I wouldn't have imagined that changing who you are, in order to make yourself the best possible you, would take so long. I guess changing 20+ years of conditioning takes a lil more than 1 yr.

FR:

So I meet up with CoolHandLuke and X and we walked around for a bit. We walk into Xyz Store and X goes and looks around I head down to he lower level, but I don’t find anything I like. On the way out I spot a good looking broad…

*I put a smile on my face as I walk up…2 taps on her shoulder , keep my hand on there spin her so she faces me, then I let go*

Me: Hey.. This is random… Your are very beautiful and I would like to get to know you.
HB: Oh…..Why Thank you.
Me: By the way im 4Five6
HB: Im L nice to meet you.
Me: nice to meet you, what your story today?
HB: umm. Just walking around, me and some friends were out here having lunch.
Me: Cool… you from around here?
HB: No I am from Anaheim, where you from?
ME: Im from out here….Oh wow... So who was the Lucky Driver?
HB: My friend….* I cut her off*
Me: You know I was just out in Anaheim about 2 weeks ago.

At this point I went into a lil story about my MSF course out there, and how I was the only one that didn’t pass. We talked a lil about that and gas prices.

ME: So what your nationality?
HB: Im Hispanic duh…

*Note: Hispanic and Latinos are 2 different things, and I am not sure she was aware of this*
Often the term "Hispanic" is used synonymously with the word "Latino", and frequently with "Latin" as well, as they are used in the U.S. Even though the terms may sometimes overlap in meaning, they are not completely synonymous.


Me: Well… don’t you think Hispanic is a lil broad??
HB: Im Mexican, but I was born and raised here, you?
Me: Same.. I was born and raised here also, but I have spent a good amount of time in certain parts of Mexico.
ME: You like to travel? What’s the weirdest thing that’s happened to you while traveling?

She hasn’t traveled too much so she doesn’t have to many things to say, so I take over and start telling a couple of stories of my adventures and that places I have been. My last story is about my in Mexico and family, I used this to transition into a deeper/important topic.

For the rest of the convo We talk about Family, how many we have, where they are from, brother, sister, I just asked OEQ about what she enjoyed about family, family activities, visiting family ect… Then I just Rewarded and relate.

Then She notices that her friend had positioned herself next to us so she could hear our convo and watch with her peripheral vision. I point her friend out and comment that she isn’t doing a good job of being inconspicuous and they both giggle.
I figure that this is a good time to depart since her friends are crowding around and I don’t know where CHL and X are at.
I tell her I enjoyed our conversation, and that we should talk some other time when we are both not busy. I pull out the celly and tell her to type in her number, she does and I call it ask her what company she is with while I wait for the machine, I figure that I would make her leave herself a message. She lets phone ring a couple of time and she picks up. We talk for a short while to each other on our phones then hang up. I give her a hug and say my good bye.

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I think think went very well although I know it could have been better, I stuck to my Plan. I now have to start incorporating a "Bounce" once I know I can get the #. Damn now that I look back She was HOT... I think it just hit me how hot she was lol. I also need to read up a lil more on Jugglers Reward and Relate, plus Im not to good at making emotional connections.

WATCHAA Like..

I have been meaning to sit down and actually write a complete list down on what qualities I like in women, in terms of looks,personality, etc... I heard about this from on of the MM Interview Series that talked about Qualifying (I believe Sinn was in it). About 1 month ago I sat down and started a lil list and now since I have a game plan when talking to a HB, I figure its time to actually see if she is compatible with what I am looking for. I never really talked about these things(Qualities which I am Looking for) with a HB I dont know why, But I mostly just talked about random stuff or what going on around us, with a touch of storytelling about my experiences. Hopefully now that I am going to begin screening it will allow me to transition in deep rapport a lil more easily.

Here is a small list (my actual one is pretty long) on what I want and I am looking for.
LOOKS:

• Around 5'6
• Around 115
• Brunet
  
• Nice Hips
• Nice Teeth

PERSONALITY:

• Funny
• Witty
• Confident
• Smart
  
• Independent (not to Independent)
• Sweet

MISC:

• Must be Family oriented
• Must not want children right away
• Must Love to Travel
• Must Love Dogs
• Must respect her roots and culture
• Must be adventurous
  

I also Have a list of what I will not tolerate, but I don't want to make this post to long.


Now I have to formulate how I am going to screen and find out if she fits the list. I figure I can use stories and asked her question about these topics to find out what she is passionated about and what kind of person she is. If she doesn't have any of these qualities that I am looking for then I can just politely Next her. After all I have the Power of choice right? So know I have get everything together and see how it will work out.

Its Saturday Night and I am going to meet up with some Homies and hit the club, Hopefully I will get more than a handful of chances to experiment and see how it goes.